Saturday, October 23, 2010

Just Us Girls

As you can imagine, adding a very active 2 year old little boy to our family has brought with it alot of change.  It is obviously a huge blessing to have Luke in our family and a good change; nevertheless change in itself is sometimes hard.

Having a demanding 2 year old who wants (and needs) to be by our side constantly for his own security, leaves very little one-on-one time for me to spend with Joy.  That is one change that's been a little difficult for us, and a little tough on Joy, even though she absolutely adores Luke and is a huge help with him (and I do mean huge).  Considering the age difference between all three of my kids, we had the same situation when Joy was born as Colt was used to having me all to himself as well.  And it is a little different because we do homeschool, so nobody gets breaks from anyone or anything 24/7, if you know what I mean.  But then again, I wouldn't want it any other way.

Well, we're finally to a point with Luke where he is secure enough to stay with Grandmama (my mom next door) for awhile.  So, for about six weeks now, Joy and I have had a day once a week, usually Thursdays, for about 4-5 hours for "Just Us Girls".  Let me say first of all though, that I realize that not everyone can do this; I'm very blessed with the advantage here in that my mom lives next door and we're talking about two kids at home during the day....I know many of you have more at home!  Anyway, Luke knows he goes to Grandmama's and has fun with her and then Joy and I come back after him (with candy, popsicle, gum, or some little surprise) and take him back home with us.  This is also good for him.  :)

So far, for our "Just Us Girls" time, here's what we've done.  We've gone shopping (some for real shopping, but mostly window shopping) and out to eat.  Joy loves the antique gallery/flea market as much as I do, so that's a fun thing for us.  We've been to the mall and visited the photo booth and rode the carousel there and had a fun you can see!  :)

Believe it or not, Goodwill is a place Joy likes as much as me, so we've done that as well.  Those were all places of her choosing!  But we decided it would be fun (and more budget friendly) to just have 4-5 hours at home also, so the last 3 weeks, that's what we've done.  We've watched The Sound of Music (a movie we both love) snuggled together on the couch.  And most recently, can you believe a simple game of hide-and-seek was what she wanted?  We played indoors and we both had lots of fun with that....shh...don't tell anyone how much I enjoyed playing hide-and-seek!  Then we brought out the craft supplies and crafted. 

I think that particular day of hide and seek and crafting has been our favorite yet......crafting and talking. 

Joy designed a T-shirt and painted a hanging wooden flower and I stained and distressed some old wooden spoons I had picked up at GW at some point, put some old labels on jars that I purchased at the antique gallery and grubbied some little nubbie candles (also found at GW).

This past Thursday wasn't filled with much as my little girl has been really sick this week.  Wednesday she had a fever of a little over 105 degrees.  After two doctor visits, we thought it was strep only, but I think she had even more going on, as in possibly the flu.  I think we're finally on the downhill swing of that, but she's run fever for 6 days straight.  We did have about 3 hours for "our time" on Thursday, but we mostly just sat around and talked, although we did do each other's nails, as she just wasn't feeling well at all.  (Please remember her in your prayers....and that the rest of us don't get whatever it is).

We're going to try a nicer outing once a month that involves money spending and reserve the remaining Thursdays for special things we can do here at home together.  With Christmas coming up, I can see those times at home being the most special anyway!  We both look very forward to Thursdays!  :) 

It's amazing how that 4-5 hours once a week of "Just Us Girls" time is so refreshing, and beneficial to our relationship!  It was important to me that Joy know how special she is to me and how proud I am of her.  I've had a great time and I believe she has too......Luke and my mom are getting one-on-one time together and we're all building memories in the meanwhile.  :)    


Joy ~ Doodlebug ~ said...


Thursdays are my favorite time of the can be sure of that! :)

I love you! 8!


Cat Nap Inn Primitives said...

what a wonderful time spent with a wonderful girl such as yours..I loved hearing what you both did together and wish I had some of that with my mom..glad you are making time to do some great things together..can't wait to see more..and I hope Joy is feeling much better as the days go by..have a wonderful weekend..stay cozy and enjoy your family.;)

Donna~One Simple Country Girl said...

How precious!! I really miss the "one on one" time with my Mom. She lives half way across the country from me so we don't get to see each other very much anymore. But I still talk to her on the phone almost daily and she will always be my best friend, no matter how old either of us gets! You are such a great Mom, Tammy, and I know that each of your children know and appreciate that very much! I hope Joy gets to feeling better very soon ~ will keep y'all in my thoughts and prayers.

Linda ★ Parker's Paradise said...

My Sara is 33 ( and 1/2 ) and we both love our special time together. We spend hours on the phone. Alas, she has 3 kids that need her time , as well, and when I visit, they each demand some of my time, too. Neither of us denies any of the kids their time. I love them all so much. This week, Poppa and I tried to give each one some alone time and it was so precious. I didn't get that so much with my Mom. I love her but I wish things had been just a bit different for us. Joy is so fortunate that you know the importance of your relationship with her. You have really been blessed. Both of you!

Tanya said...

I think that is so wonderful and so rewarding for all of you that you make the time for that. My oldest daughter and I just had "shopping" time together today too. The "experts" always say couples should have date nights and that's good but also the one on one with each child is just as important. How inspiring you are with just the simpliest of things to do together. My girls and I love the GW as well. Isn't it best to turn trash into treasure! I have a set of coffee mugs that I got at the GW that are my all time favorites. They are forbidden to leave my house for fear they won't come back! HA.
Thanks for a great and SPECIAL post!
Will say a prayer for sweet Joy!

Hollie said...

Sounds like a great time for everyone!

terrypi said...

Oh, that is so great that you both spend time together. Joy seems like such a fantastic daughter. She is so cute!!! I sure hope she is feeling better.

The Farmers Oldest Daughter said...

What a great thing to do. My daughter lives 4 hours from me but I do talk to her often or we e-mail but I do miss spending time with her. It is great that you both have a great relationship. I never had that with my mother plus I don't live close to her.

Have a great weekend.


Kimberly said...

Tammy, it's an absolute blessing to watch you parent across the miles. You're raising your family in such a loving, Godly home and I am inspired by you.

I hope Joy is back to herself soon... Julianna tends to get fevers like that and they're not fun at all.

Hugs, Kimberly

Amy said...

Oh what a fun day! I need to plan something like this for me and my girl :-) We get so caught up in everyday life, this would be something super special for us.


Laura said...

What a nice and great post, Tammy!
You really have a wonderful family!
Have a nice and blessed Sunday,

Annie said...

Tammy, you two have a wonderful relationship! I pray that my girls and I are that close as they grow older!!!

Football and Fried Rice said...

HA - I see that my Mom commented about "Our" time together - she's right - that it is few & far between anymore :) But I sure can't wait until Mya is old enough to appreciate our girly time together! We are going to love to craft together!

Gettysburg Homestead said...

Oh Tammy what a great idea!!! Your daughter will remember these times forever.

I am so glad Luke has been adjusting to his "new" life and family. God Bless you for taking him in.


Sharon said...

I sure hope that she is feeling better and the rest of you don't catch it.
I is so wonderful that you and Joy have been able to have girl time.
It will be wonderful memories for her.
have a great day.

At Home With Amy said...

There is nothing like a loving relationship between a mother and her daughter. I know I share that special bond with my own mother and daughter.
They grow up so fast you just want to hold on to their innocense for as long as you can.
Praying for a compelte healing for you Joy. Sending warm hugs to you as well.
Enjoy your week Tammy.

Melissa said...

I really admire the relationship between you and your two are like peas and carrots! I hope Joy is on the mend...poor thing!

Carrie of Farming On Faith said...

Oh I love it! My kids and I love to hit Goodwill too! We call it "Going Junkin." I so enjoyed reading about your girls day out.
You are truly blessed. I am so excited Luke is home and life is settled for you all!
I am rejoicing this morning for you!

Mandy in Mayberry said...

I think it's great that you two take some time to spend together! An investment that will reward you many times over, for sure!!

I'm sorry Joy has been sick - hope she's feeling better.