Friday, April 9, 2010

Faithful Fridays - "Timing"

It's been awhile since I've done a Faithful Friday post! Time gets away from me every time lately! For those of you that don't know, Faithful Friday was Joy's idea as a way to share her faith. If you would like to jump in, feel free to do so. You can share prayer requests, answered prayers, your faith stories, whatever you would like concerning your faith in God. Be sure and leave Joy a comment letting her know you did, so we can come visit your blog!

Since I've had this on my mind now (especially this week for some reason), I wanted to share it with you for Faithful Friday. (I'm barely squeezing this in on a Friday)!

I've learned a thing or two about differences between MY timing and GOD'S timing! Those two don't always line up!

Although through this adoption, I have to admit that God has really moved things along, there have many other times in my life that God's timing was slower than what I wanted or expected at the time!

Let me tell you about some of those times.

One major time in my life was as we waited for children. We were married 7 years before Colt came along. This definitely wasn't in MY plans! Being the planner I am, I had it all worked out.....I would be married a couple of years, then we'd have baby #1. I wanted 3 children....Jason said 2..and we'll see. But here we were well past 2 years. And looking back, even though I didn't understand it then, had we not waited EXACTLY that long, we wouldn't have Colt! Part of the wait towards the adoption was waiting for me (at the time) to turn 25 (a requirement to adopt from Korea). I remember being so impatient and wondering WHY? Well had we not waited, either he wouldn't have been born yet, or if later, that little baby boy (our Colt) would have been referred to another family! I'm so glad God knew what we needed and WHEN we needed it!

Another time was as we waited for another child (child #2). I tried to stick my nose into God's business and change the timing for us! When Colt was 2, I started looking into adoption again. In MY plans, when baby #1 was about 2 years old, we would see about having another, so I started checking into adopting again. We went as far as meeting with a birth mother and were proceeding with a lawyer to adopt the baby she was expecting. I would even be in the delivery room with her. Well, somewhere along the way, Jason and I both felt that God was tugging at us telling us this wasn't His plan. We didn't get that peace. And one thing I know, I LIKE GOD'S PEACE! Anyway, somewhat reluctantly, we backed out. And boy did God save us alot of heartache.....this birthmother had a little girl, which I would have been overjoyed about since we already had a little boy (and remember I wasn't sure there would ever be a #3...Jason said 2 and then we'll see). But we saw things clearly, when this child was born and we got word that the birth mother had a baby girl and decided to keep her! Whew...I'm so glad we listened to God and waited on Him.

But wait we did.

Remember Colt was only 2! So many years passed before Joy came along. We checked into adopting again, but this never ironed out for us...never flowed and never felt peace about it (at least both of us at the same time). But again, God knew what he was doing because when Colt was 9, we found out we were expecting child #2! And so 9 months later, we had our bundle of "Joy"...the little girl to go along with our little boy! God's timing...again it wasn't the time span I would have picked between my kids, but now I wouldn't want it any other way but God's plan for us!

And now here we are again....9 more years later with child #3 (Jason, I'm getting my #3)! :) And well, you know that story but God has moved things along fairly quickly and smoothly (compared to some adoption tables). Maybe he thinks he needs to before we're way too old! :)

There have been many small things along the way, everyday things, that I've prayed for and God answered them in many ways, in different timings other than my own. But these three I mentioned are huge things in my life!

I'm having to remind myself as I wait for the different baby steps toward getting Luke through this adoption, that God's timing really is best, no matter what!


Twin Creek Primitives said...

Hi Tammy, I just wanted to say that I just visited Joy's blog! How delightful! Her blog is wonderful and she looks very happy and confident in the person that she is! You truly are blessed to have such a wonderful daughter! You have a beautiful family and I await Luke's homecoming, too! You are a wonderful mother and all of your children are so lucky to have you!
God Bless....

Traci said...

Hi Tammy!!!!

I really appreciate this post! I've been thinking a lot lately about our process of becoming a family. Even going from the NSN to SN and how if things had been a bit different, or if we hadn't been willing to take risks, we would have completely missed Emilia...

I loved reading about your own process. Thank you.

Stellar Creations said...

Tammy, Luke is such a lucky little boy to have you waiting in the wings for him. You are a beautiful person!

Big Hugs,

Dan said...


What a beautiful post. It is so true, God's timing is perfect! I am surprised He doesn't get frustrated with us for trying to rush him along. There have been many things in my life that I can see that God's timing was perfect. Isn't it funny that we sometimes can not see how perfect His timing is, but when we look back it is easy to see why we had to wait? It is like He is saying, "See, this is why I wanted you to wait."

Thank you for sharing Faithful Fridays with us. I hope you have a wonderful weekend!


Tamera @ the Stone Fence Cottage said...

What a wonderful story!!! I really can relate-- was married 6 1/2 years when Julie arrived from Korea. god's timing is always perfect! julie shares her birthday with my mom---couincidence--i think not!

Tanya said...

Your patence and faith in God's plan is very inspiring and uplifting. He really does know what is best. Thank you for reminding me of that! Continued blessings for your family as you wait on your arrival. :0)
I'm on my way to say "hey" to Joy!

carolyn@primitive~devotion said...

God's timing is always perfect. I have to remind myself of this on a daily basis. He knows best!

Karen/My Colonial Home said...

Your patience, understanding and FAITH are so touching.
I wish ALL OF US COULD LIVE THIS WAY...thanks for this wonderful post and for putting the light back into my way of thinking - big hugs,